For the last decade, Christians and speakers have reiterated the same information concerning homosexuality and the Church. For those of us who already believe it is not a part of God's creativity for humans to have same-sex romantic relationships and struggle with this brokenness, we want help. Not preaching or teaching about how the Bible says it is immoral, but practical support, love, and intimacy. This website will continuously flow thoughts concerning the 4T's and the Church.
Many Christians in the Church long for same-sex intimacy (not sex). Many of these are men and women attracted to the same sex. Growing up in the Church, I saw this, for I am also attracted to the same sex who longs for healthy, godly, deep, and intimate male friendship. I am devoting a part of my life to being open to the world on how I experience this kind of friendship with those within the Church. Some of my friends are men I am attracted to, some of whom I have a deep emotional attachment to, and some are men I have what you will consider a "normal" friendship. All three friendships are essential and allow me to experience healthy intimacy. And the 4T's is the method I use to achieve that. I want to make sure this is clear, this is not a cure or anything for same-sex lust. That will be ridiculous to believe. The only treatment for my fallen nature is the Life, Death, and Resurrection of Christ (I thank God for that formula). But we are allowed to experience amazing love now and a taste of the community we will have in the New Kingdom of Christ.
So simply put: The Vision of the 4Ts and the Church is to equip men in the Church to meet the needs of fellow Christian men that deal with same-sex lust and same-sex attraction (there is a difference) through touch, time, transparency, and teamwork.
My Mission
To equip the church to know how to PRACTICALLY love those who struggle with same-sex attraction along with healthy boundaries, understanding, compassion, selflessness, and courage, all within the context of being in a Christian community.
To equip those that struggle with same-sex attraction and want to understand more of what it means to experience healthy intimacy with their friends in their communities. Isn't that what we want?
“Taking an orphan or widow into your life can be very messy. That individual could come with years of baggage to sort through that you havn’t caused. They may have a heck of a lot of ghost or demons they’re going to have to face. And you know, you can’t fix them anyway. That’s God’s job. They aren’t your project-they’re your friend. Are you up for the challenge? Being a father to the fatherless, or brother to the brotherless? I believe, it’s what God calls us to be. He provided a very good example.”